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Posted May 14, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. Women want to cuddle after sex and men don't. Lots of exceptions, overlap, blah blah blah. I know. Still, it's as true as stereotypes often are.
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Everyone recognizes it even if everyone doesn't do it. What's with this gender difference? Women like to make eye contact and stay close afterward while men want Mount pleasant mills PA adult personals roll over and, literally or figuratively, light a cigarette. Women need the intimacy of post-coital connection while men need to separate from that connection.
Women like to gaze into a man's eyes; men like to go to sleep. The causes of these differences lie in the different ways that men and women Ladies seeking sex Nashoba Oklahoma sex and intimacy. I know there's a lot of culture and socialization here. But I'm going to present an explanation that's so Freudian it'll sound like it comes from Central Casting. Fortunately, it also happens to be true. For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously guilty about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers.
Sex for its own sake would feel like dancing on their mothers' graves.
For men, sex Looking for Galena bondage intimacy have to be separated because otherwise they feel both too close to and worried about women—originally, their mothers. If their partners are objectified, these men can feel safe from both dangers. Thus, after sex, women need the reassurance that they, themselves, haven't abandoned themselves to it for its pleasure. Men need to pull away so as to not feel any risk of merging with the woman or having to take care of her.
What does cuddling mean to a girl?
Neither gender has it right or wrong. It's ridiculous for women to claim that separating sex and intimacy is inherently degrading. It's also Beautiful older ladies wants online dating Fairbanks for men to claim that a woman's need for intimate connection during and after sex is some type of burdensome need. Intimacy can enhance pleasure or detract from it. Objectification can be a springboard to intense pleasure or an obstacle to it.
Drawing battle lines about what's healthy or not when it comes to love and sex is perilous and usually serves neurotic purposes.
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